Out with the old and in with the new!
Friends come into your life and exit, unlike family – they are not blood relations and stick to you like glue! You have free will so you get to choose who stays and who goes but in the process some damage is done. When do you call it quits? What is acceptable and what is not?
As we go through our lives growing up and getting older, with life’s lessons we hopefully become a bit wiser and shift for the better.
“You meet people who forget you. You forget people you meet. But sometimes you meet those people you can’t forget. Those are your friends”. – Unknown
Many a friendship whether good or bad needs a clean-up and you will be faced to leave the relationship.
There is the friend that smothers you with admiration and puts you on a pedestal, not as though you deserve it, is this true or false. Or do you need this boost for your self-worth or ego. You decide.
“An insincere and evil friend is more to be feared than a wild beast; a wild beast may wound your body, but an evil friend will wound your mind”.- Buddha
Then we are faced with a needy friend that only knows you when they down and out. You are their shoulder to cry on, their beck and call girl, psychologist, when the going gets tuff; you will become the trauma aunty.
If you are in a high rolling occupation, the profession of a lawyer or doctor etc – these friends tend to call on you for free professional services rendered and not your friendship.
Or they will use you as a corporate ladder stealing your ideas in order to get to the top in their field.
Now you are also faced with The Vulture or Vampire, sucking you dry! Financially you are the Reserved Bank. You always end up paying their bills, they never budget and you have actually not seen them pay any tab, bill or flash a buck – in turn for their so-called friendship you only get a Sponge Bob!
Friends should presumably give unconditionally. Be by your side when you need them without expecting anything in return. Your friendship should not be based on monetary value. Real friends will lift you up when you are down, no criticism and stand by you through thick and thin. Provide their honest opinions and enhance your quality of life.
Give and take in all situations. What do you want out of the relationship
Most of us can actually count the amount of friends on our fingers – there is no quantity just quality few friendships that we have built foundations, this will happened sooner or later. I have many acquaintances but very few meaningful, friendships …
And we cannot please everyone – true friends take you with your cracks and all and vice versa.