What is it about success that others obtain that makes best friends turn their backs, people start gossiping or just being nasty & envious towards that person.
The truth is… some people will happily stand at the sidelines criticizing, gossiping about those who are actually busy doing something with their lives. Hard work, determination and failures are all vital parts of reaching success in live. Some are brave enough to venture into the unknown, while others will be envious and nasty about the success others advice while they themselves are comfortable living mediocre lives.
“Envy is the religion of the mediocre. It comforts them, it soothes their worries, and finally it rots their souls, allowing them to justify their meanness and their greed until they believe these to be virtues. Such people are convinced that the doors of heaven will be opened only to poor wretches like themselves who go through life without leaving any trace but their threadbare attempts to belittle others and to exclude – and destroy if possible – those who, by the simple fact of their existence, show up their own poorness of spirit, mind, and guts. Blessed be the one at whom the fools bark, because his soul will never belong to them.”
Envy is a feeling of discontent brought upon by someone else’s happiness, possessions or advantages in life. Coveting what they have or their status in society compared with your own. It is also a silent emotion that we keep hidden behind a mask or a smile or kind words of encouragement. Envy is a though process that causes negative emotions.
Why do you feel envy for your neighbour, friend or family member instead of being happy for them? If your sister has longer hair than you, if your neighbour is able to build on to their home and you can’t afford to. Why can’t we just be happy for their good fortune?
“Envy is the art of counting the other fellow’s blessings instead of your own.”
It is because the human race is innately selfish. We have the capacity to make everything about us. We have insecurities about ourselves and low self-esteem; therefore we are easily affected by the behaviour and blessings of others. Another reason is that we can be lazy and it is easier to sit back and feel sorry for ourselves than to dream a new dream and accomplish it.
“The spirit of envy can destroy; it can never build”.
If you are feeling envy right now for someone, Maybe they are going on a lavish holiday you can only dream of or buying that new car. It could even be something as silly as a handbag. Just snap out of it and stop whining! There are a few things you can do to help you eliminate envy from your life. Envy will block you from moving forward and you don’t want to be stuck in this pit of dark emotion.
“Envy blinds men and makes it impossible for them to think clearly”.
We focus on the wrong things, like looks and materialism instead of what is really important in life. Focus on the good. Focus on what you do have. Focus on you! We also have the wrong perceptions, we may think someone’s life is amazing but the grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Get your facts, you will always find that that person is most probably just as envious as you or unhappy in some other way. We can change our thought patterns firstly and decide to not complain about our own lives. Try it for just one day, then three, then a week and soon we will see a change not only in our thought patterns but in our lives. Learn to live a life of gratitude. We can evaluate our own lives to see if there are truly any genuine changes we may want to make and the work hard to achieve them. Focus on our own gifts and talents and using them remembering we are all unique individuals. We can learn contentment in all situations and stop the perpetual quest for piling on more and more stuff. We need to learn when enough is enough. We need to find ourselves, and learn to love ourselves and praise ourselves instead of criticizing ourselves. Tell yourself you can do it because you can!