Eloping in the older days was seen as defying your parent’s choices, what they thought was in your best interests. Various cultural influences, religious beliefs, age, financial standing in society were dictating factors to force one to elope.
Nowadays eloping would entail cost effectiveness and based on a liberal modern approach.Wedding stress involves caterers, venue, over excessive budget the whole labour intensive strain of turning a joyous experience into Cinderella meets Chucky’s bride.
So let’s go with the untraditional and make matters easier and more satisfying to suit our needs and pocket. Leave the gossiping mass of siblings, aunties and uncles, and uninvited people who would donate their unsavoury comments but however are laden with their own sordid details of their past and just in all probability play “another one bites the dust by Queen” instead of the wedding march.
“Rather would I have the love sons of romantic ages, rather Don Juan and Madame Venus rather an elopement by ladder and rope on a moonlight night, followed by the father’s curse, mother’s moans, and the moral comments of neighbours, than correctness and propriety measured by yardsticks.” – Emma Goldma
We did not feel the need to budget for our big day when we decided to tie the knot – you fall in love, feel like it would be a matter of getting hitched – but once you make your list and calculations, inviting guests – running the risk of RSVP’s with no show, renting a hall, caterers, wedding planners, band etc, etc, we felt this money would be well worth spent on purchasing property. So forget gambling your finances and pocket the money for something of far better value.
We made a vested effort and invited our wedding guests to a “bring and braai” at Tokai forest in celebration of our engagement. Little did our guests know that they were paying for our ceremony and enjoying our future union on a much lighter note.
Viva Las Vegas in local style of wedding was the eloping stance we took. The venue could be anywhere here in Cape Town, either on the beach, city, wine lands or a little break in the mountains with the minimum of costs involved like a mini camping trip as we like the outdoors. No mess no fuss. Seriously we proceeded to pronounce our nuptials in the presence of a Magistrate to legalise our union.
We never look back and have money today to celebrate our wedding anniversary yearly in style and in each other’s company. Whether friends or family decide to join us on our annual get-a-ways they are more than welcome to. We however took an eloping stance and enjoyed the trip!
“Weddings are never about the bride and groom, weddings are public platforms for dysfunctional families.” ― Lisa Kleypas, Blue-Eyed Devil