A positive attitude
Have you ever heard the saying “You attract who you are”. If you are positive, those are the type of people you will attract in the workplace. The change begins with you, with your attitude and your outlook. If you are going to be negative that is the outcome you will achieve. Self acceptance is the key. First you have to like and accept yourself in order for others to like you.
“You are essentially who you create yourself to be and all that occurs in your life is the result of your own making.”
― Stephen Richards, Think your way to Success: Let Your Dreams Run Free
Dealing with difficult people
You are not going to be friends with everyone in the office. Remember your common goals so that you can work effectively as a team. Ignore negative people and negative comments and do not be pulled in by other people’s drama. Write down any specific issues you have with a particular co-worker on a piece of paper. Look at them objectively. If they are minor irritations, work on ignoring them. If it is something that is affecting your work you may need to confront this person directly.
A good leader is also a good listener and follower, so be able to work in team. Add value to people instead of manipulating them. Do not be territorial; there is always a bit of room for compromise. A measure of healthy rivalry may just give you a little extra push of motivation required.
Be a part of the solution not the problem
Avoid office gossip. Change the topic if the conversation is becoming toxic. Don’t be a complainer. If there is a problem in the office, suggest a solution, even be a part of the solution. For a small example, if there happens to be no coffee just be humble enough to run out and get some. It will benefit you in the long run is your co workers have their caffeine fix.
Confront your fears
Stand up for yourself and your values. Don’t be a pushover and don’t be afraid of trying or of failing as both lead to success. Above all communicate clearly and effectively in a confronting situation.
“Don’t nourish your fears more than you nourish your hopes.”
― Steve Maraboli
Manage your time well. Set limits for yourself on how much you will help others as you do not want to be taken advantage of. Keep private and working relationships separate. You don’t want to bring your home to work or your work home.
Have a jar of sweets on your desk that you willingly share which will encourage co workers to come to your desk and thus start a conversation.
Bring a cake just for fun. People will always like the person who brings treats.
Help out co workers whenever you can.
Smile. A smile is attracting and contagious. If you smile generally most people will smile back at you.